Happily Ever Trying

I'm not sure if it's just me, or if all girls are built this way, but wanting to be a wife and mother has always been my greatest desire in life. I was blessed with a godly husband who absolutely loves the Lord! It hasn't always been that way; I can explain all the struggles some other time. For now, I can say that years of prayer have availed so much to us.

During the times of struggle, we both took time out to speak to God as individuals. That is absolutely crucial to you as an individual, it would be better to pray over those things together. Wow! It literally took 16 years, therapy, countless hours of prayer, a promised child being born, and the reality that all of it could be over and gone instantly, for me to be able to finally accept this truth! Instead of just venting to God about all the ways I felt my husband was failing me, I could have taken the time to calmly state my feelings to my husband, as well as an explanation of my expectations so he'd actually know where I'm coming from. I could have asked how he was feeling, and what I could do to help him. I could have sat down with my husband and sought the Lord with him.

We are called to be one.

Certainly! The concept of “one flesh” appears in several Bible verses, emphasizing the unity and intimacy between a husband and wife. Let’s explore some of these passages:

1. Genesis 2:22-24:

• After creating Eve from Adam’s rib, Adam declares, “This is now bone of my bones, And flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, Because she was taken out of Man.” This passage signifies the profound connection between husband and wife, as they become one entity. It also emphasizes leaving one’s parents to form this new union12.

1. Ephesians 5:31:

• The apostle Paul reaffirms the concept of “one flesh” by quoting the Genesis passage: “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” Here, the union of marriage is likened to a deep physical and spiritual bond13.

1. 1 Corinthians 6:16:

• In a different context, Paul uses the concept to address sexual immorality. He states, “Or do you not know that the one who joins himself to a prostitute is one body with her? For He says, ‘The two shall become one flesh.’” This verse underscores the significance of sexual intimacy within the bounds of marriage1.

1. Ephesians 5:28-29:

• Paul also encourages husbands to love their wives as they love themselves. Just as Christ cherishes the Church, husbands should nourish and cherish their wives. This love reflects the oneness of marriage1.

Remember that the concept of “one flesh” extends beyond the physical union—it encompasses emotional, spiritual, and relational unity. Marriage is a sacred covenant where two individuals become inseparable, forming a unique bond that reflects God’s design for human relationships4. 🌟

• 8 "and the two shall become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two but one flesh. 9 What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.” Mark 10:8-9

Why did I read this for so long and only see what I thought were his shortcomings? Didn't he just owe me all that because I was his wife? Didn't he know he was to do all that Christ did for the church, for me? I mean, I'm sure he just knows this, right? I wrongly assumed this.

I believe that is something common across most modern marriages; two imperfect people expecting an idealized perfection from the other. I'm writing a series of blogs about getting to that "happily ever trying" theme to this time in our lives. I will be focusing on dedicating myself to trying to help others who may have gone through similar situations in life. I will be redefining myself as God's daughter. I'll be carrying you on this journey of discovery with me!

Be Blessed by Being A Blessing.